Firstly, let me say I am NOT suicidal. Let me tell you my story. My cousin was born when I was 8 years old. She is 7 now, I am 15. Life was good, life was great. That is until she was about 5 years old. Then she started copying off of me and wouldn't stop. It's so annoying! Let me go on. I live with my grandma because my mom has a lot of medical problems and can't really afford to take car of me and my sister. So my grandma takes care of us. My aunt who is a free loading corporate ********* brings her lil daughter iver to my house everyday without even asking and just leaves her here with me. Being that I live with my grandma, i don't get a lot of things. And the things I do get i work (emphasis on the work) really work my butt to the bone to get what I want. My cousin is a kid and my aunt gets her everything! And that wouldn't be a problem if my cousin was into things for her own age group, but no! She just has to have what i desire. She doesn'teven appreciate what she gets. Everyone says "Oh, shes only a lil kid." Yes I know! I am quite aware and so then why doesnt anyone treat her as such?! I am so sick of this. First she copied off of me and got a gameboy advanced (that i worked for), then she copied off of me again and asked for a gamecube (that i worked for), then she copied off of me and got a nintendo ds lite (THAT I WORKED FOR!) Now that she's found out that i want a wii, she wants one! In fact i saw her mom bringing it in today out of her car and I went in my room and just started bawling for about an hour... I feel so defeated. I feel like nobody takes my feelings seriously. It's more then just a game to me. I wish the people in my family would respect the fact that when they know i am really wanting something and my cousin's going to copy off of me and ask for whatever it is that i want tell her no. Or get her something else. I can't live my life like this. I know some people are reading this and thinking that i am making a big deal out of nothing but it's so much more to me then nothing and i feel like no one in the world understands me. especially now that i am without my mom. I am not looking forward to christmas at all. especially when i know that cousin of mine will be unwrapping a wii and i will be holding back tears. I really hate the life i am living. And I also know right now people are thinking "Well maybe she wants to be like me." Well maybe so, but i keep telling her that when she copies off of me it makes me feel crappy. like the things i work so hard for are worthless. its like a slap in the face...from a 7 year old. I dont know what to do. I wish i could go into detail more, but then i would be showing you the hate i feel from my family. they dont love me, they only took me and my sister in because we would've went into foster care. i dont want to resort to cutting my wrists, but sometimes i feel a strong impulse to. Anyone who's reading this, please, only nice comments.
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she is just looking up to you... the family is teaching her bad habits by getting her what she wants.. look at it in the long run, you will know that you have to work to get the things you want, and then when she is out on her own, she will not know responsibility with money, probably blow all of hers, and cant figure out why she is always broke.. her best bet when getting older is to find a husband that has lots of money to spend, which probably will not love her and will cheat on her.... you on the other hand will know how to be independant and will only have to look for love..
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Well the things that you suggested we would think I'm sure that we do. You were 5 once and I'm sure that there was someone that you looked up to. Kids don't really know any better. They are here living life and learning just like you. The only difference is that you are farther along in the learning and living process. It's unfortunate that your mother has medical problems and cannot care for you, but look at the bright side. At least you have a family that was willing to take you in. You could be in foster care and have a terrible life. Or you could be with you mom and have nothing and be working to help her and not have any of the things that you do have. You should be thankful. I know that you don't think that it's great at all now that you have to work for the things you have, but in the future you will be thanking them and you will be proud because it will teach you the value of a dollar and it will teach you work ethics. Your little bratty cousin that gets everything handed to her will never want to work a day in her life and will probably blow away every dime that she has...then you will be the one left with a big smile on your face. Try being nice to her...make friends not enemies. Then when she realizes that you are on her side then it will be easier to talk to her and let her know how you feel. I bet now that you are not so nice to her that she does all of the little things to make you crazy just dispite you. Do a little reverse psychology. It works well on children! Good luck!!!
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Well you only want nice comments and so its hard to comment in an honest way. But I will just say that you are putting too much energy into caring about your cousin. Let it go! Yes it might stink that she gets things you want but sadly that is life. You will have bigger challenges than this to get through in life and you need to become stronger if you are to have a good life. There will always be others that get more than you - there will also be others that get less than you. Thats a fact of life.
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i'm not trying to sound negative at all but it sounds like the problem you have is with yourself and not with your cousin, when I was 14, my brother was 20, and we lost our mom... so i know what something about what it's like to not look forward to the holidays as much and feel down when they come around although im being forced to get back into the swing of things since my son was born lol ... but after my mom passed away my 20 brother decided to take custody of me, and believe me it was hard he screwed up his credit so bad taking over bills morage food gas car payments and a 14 year old girl all in one day... i got a job not long after everything happened and busted my butt for everything i have... i still do .. i'm only 18 now and i have a 1yr old son who i adore but im the one who gets him what he needs and takes care of him and i get so frusterated when people are just handed things and although i get upset with them for being handed what i bust my *** for it's not their fault that they get given things where as people like me and you work for what we have... just look at the things you have and realize that you have them because you earned them you didnt just ask for them they should mean more to you because you got them yourself you might not have everything you want but try to appriciate what you have... i know it's a hard situation to deal with but there are people worse off than you ... the things you work for are not worthless because you worked for them even though your cousin has the same things, the same things she has are worthless because she did nothing for them. i think it's normal to feel resentment towards people who are handed things when you work so hard for them but realize that she is a little girl and it's not her fault
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First of all, I am sorry to hear about your mom. Is she going to get better? I do hope so. Anyways - yeah - it's frustrating when people just get stuff handed to them when you had to work your butt off for it. But think of her future vs. yours. She will be selfish and unable to function in the real world, and won't be able to make sacrafices to reach financial goals. She'll be they type to get into money trouble down the road, because she is used to being spoiled. You on the other hand will probably make very wise financial decisions, like saving, buying a house, paying cash for things, because you are used to having to wait... This is called delaying gratification. Getting everything you want is a SERIOUS problem for most adults today, because their parents bought them everything, and that debt they go into to satisfy their desires is causing divorce and other terrible hurts! You don't want to be like your cousin - your aunt is spoiling her terribly - trying to buy her love because she is gone all the time at work. You are much MUCH better off being YOU than her, and bear with it - in three years you can be outta there anyway. Hang in there - you are awesome and you are gonna do great in life!
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Your cousin is 7, and she only really knows you. She looks up to you and sees you as her older sister. She wants to do like you and be like you because she idolizes you. Sure you get upset, but it is what little kids do. She doesn't have any friends to play with, so she has "adopted you". Try being nice to her and play with her. Teach her how to play her new games. You'll like it. : )
I also feel that you may be experiencing some jealousy towards her. You said that you have had to work for everything that you have and that your cousin just gets whatever she wants, which are the exact same things that you had to work so hard for. No one is handing you anything, so you resent her for it. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and try and learn to appreciate what you do have. Look at how things could have turned out if your family didn't take you in. They loved you at least enough to not want you to go into foster care. If they really did hate you, then they would have let you go. Then you may end up with some worse people. Remember Cinderella? Try and get along with your family and especially your cousin. She has a mom, but look what she does to your cousin. Just drops her off and leaves.
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Well,first off,consider your cousin wanting everything you do a form of flattery.She obviously idolizes you,and that is why she wants to be like you so much.As far as you not getting everything without working for it,it will make you stronger as an adult.Try to talk to your grandma about how your aunt's behaviour makes you feel.Unfortunately,gramma probably does not have the means to make your every wish be granted.I recently found out that my kids older half sister is very jealous of them because they have had me supporting them their whole lives.She has been passed around both her mom and dad's side of the family her whole life.It may not seem like it now,but your cousin is learning life lessons through you.That is something I found out last month about my own cousins.I would try to talk to an adult whom you trust about your situation,and consider the fact that eventually,you will be a strong leader in your family.I felt like an outcast in my family growing up.Then I found out my parents made me look perfect to the family.So,when I was the first one in the family to bring a man I was living with,but now am married to,to a family dinner,everyone was shocked.It had not been done before in the family.However,it gave the rest of them the courage to bring their insignificant others around.Just know that your actions may seem weak to you,but obviously your cousin looks up to you because you look strong to her.She is probably also jealous that you live at grandma's and she has to go home all the time.Obviously,you are a strong person as you also mentioned your sister,and you probably look after her as well.Try asking your aunt for a little bit of money (like 20 a week) for helping take care of your cousin.And if nothing else,find a school counselor or adult you trust,to help you express to your family your feelings.
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This is hard since you only want nice comments. But there are always going to be people who get more in life than you. There are always going to be people who get less in life than you. These are just the facts of life. I know it's not fair, but life is like that. I'm sorry you feel resentment towards your cousin, I don't even think it's the game, or the copying that bugs you. I think it's the fact that she has a mother that can do these things for her. Just remember that your family loves you, even if they don't show it in material objects. They took you in, and they loved you. I know it doesn't sound like a lot for you now, but be thankful for what you have. There are many people who don't even have relatives to take them in when things go wrong.
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I understand how frustrating it must be to watch your cousin get spoiled with all the things you want, but you are the one who will be able to take care of yourself and the people you love by working for what you want as an adult and your cousin is being cheated of that experience. When you say your grandma gives you and your sister a home to keep you out of foster care, that sounds to me like she must care about you a lot, even if she can't afford to buy you expensive gifts. Maybe your cousin would like to earn a little money too -- that would be a healthier thing you could teach her to copy, how to save up for what she wants. It feels good to take your own money to the store and buy your own stuff, a lot better than having it handed to you. Maybe while you are watching her, you can think of ways to earn money together. It's not her fault they treat her that way. She probably looks up to you, so try to find a way to enjoy that. And please don't do anything to harm yourself -- that's not going to bring the kind of attention you want.
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omg i feel so sorry for u! Y dont u start cryingand then it will make your stupid brat of a cousin look bad. I have a cousin sort of the same where she gets everyhting she wants and it pisses me off badly, but the thing is everyone thinks she is spoilt. U could like try obsesing about something that she couldnt want with out looking wierd like if shes seven really complicated books and stuff that she cant read. Or something and just not tell ehr or show her wat you have or want
good luck
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