She works on the first floor and I work on the second floor. I was leaving and heard a couple guys talking. I just happened to hear my fiancee's name. They were making comments about how they are glad there is no serious dress code and how they love walking by Sarahs desk. That day, she was wearing something that revealed quite a bit of cleavage. I didn't hear everything, but from what I heard...it sounds like they were talking about how they love walking by her desk and taking a peak down her shirt. Well, this obviously bothered me, but I let it go. Now everytime my finacee wears anything revealing..I think back to what those guys said. So today I pick up my girl to take her to work, and she was wearing something that revealed a bunch of cleavage. I got upset and wound up telling her about what I overheard. Now she is all upset and I'm not sure if its with me, with the other guys, or with her job in general. Was I right to inform her of this, or should I just have left it alone???
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
You have to assure her you have no ill feelings towards her prior to letting her know. For example; "Honey, you know I love you and I love the way you dress. It really excites me to no end, but I have to tell you I heard two of your co-workers openly discuss your attire. Like I said I love the way you dress, and would never mention this, but at the same time I don't like the fact these guys are acting like dogs because of how you dress." It's up to you if you want to change the way you dress, I have no say so, but in the same breath I also don't like guys thinking dirty thoughts of you. Does that make sense, honey?"
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Just leave it alone.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
I agree with letting her know what they were saying....you had let it go and had no problem with it, but if you have to hear other people talking about your women then she should button up a tad for your sake
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
You were right to let her know because it upset you.
Now that she knows, and she continues to wear shirts like that, she's liking the attention.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
You were right to let her know. Her wardrobe is distracting and is not encouraging respectful behavior towards from co-workers.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
i would have said it to the guys also.if she got mad at u for this thenshe means to do it,watch out bub.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
showing cleavage, and lots of it, in the work place is a no no to begin with. You would be dead wrong not to tell her. she should know better and doing that simply asks for those kinds of comments and more. your right...she is wrong.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Yes. Honesty is very important 4 a healthy relationship.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Dont worry you did the right think...
Cheers
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Yeah, live it. Normal other guys fancy her is she's attractive.
As longs she doesn't dress too sexy
As long as those guys don't show any disrepsect.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
I would have said something not just to her but those dummy's to i bet she does not want anyone to think of her that way and being that is your girl like you said you are not diggin it. see what happens i would apologize for getting upset instead of letting her know in a more non conflicting way but i would not have held my tongue
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Well it doesn't matter now, she knows. But just talk with her if you are that concerned. But it wouldn't make sense to be upset with you. The other guys were saying stuff about her not you. It'll blow over.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Take her shopping to get appropriate clothing to wear to work
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Well, it's one thing for you to "inform her" of what other people are saying, and it's another thing for you to be "upset" when you tell her about it.
If you had simply done the former - just telling her about what you overheard - this should not cause her to get upset with you. But if you were snippy or bossy about it, then she might be annoyed with you for getting upset about what she wears.
Your motivation counts for a lot in this case. Did you tell her this information for HER sake (so she can have or build some credibility around the office), or did you tell her for YOUR sake (so you don't have to think about other men looking down your fianc鑼卐's blouse)?
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
you are marrying this girl if it bugs. multiply that feeling by 10 and that's how you are going to feel later. if she is the one you are going to grow old with. you should be able to talk to her about it. don't point fingers and you know how guys are. you cant say you haven't taken a peek at some other woman it's human nature.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Okay i'm speaking froma woman perspective.
I'm modest... i don't like showing my chest off.. because it's not for men to see.( oh yes i'm sixteen)
Okay so i TOTALLY UNDERSTAND how you don't want men speaking about your fiancee like that.... tell your girl this( or somthing like this) " Honey, I didn't like hearing those guys talking about you that way... your going to be all mine. And Just keep covered up when your at work" and then talk to those guys and ask them not to look down your fiancee shirt. it's perverted and it's wrong... they should be old enough to know what's wrong and whats right!
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
Sounds like she is craving attention and will go to any length to get it. Are you giving her enough attention when you are with her?
She probably wants attention from other guys just to let her know she is quite attractive. Maybe she don't have a very high opinion of herself.
I think you were probably right in letting her know about the comments but I wouldn't try to change her dress habits if you dislike it. If she don't dress in public like you like for her to dress, it would be better to leave her than try to change her. She might very well resent it.
Was I right to tell my fiancee that I overheard a couple guys she works with make some comments about her body
just forget about it
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